Minor Hockey Parents To Be Taught Some Lessons in Respect

Is it just me or is there more talk than ever about how badly my fellow hockey dads and moms are behaving?  I, like most who have been to a minor hockey game or two, have witnessed hockey parent lunacy first-hand.  And yup, I’ve seen a couple ejected from the building. With full disclosure I will readily admit I’ve yelled at a ref or two in the last 12 years, but I’d like to think I know where to draw a line where actual abuse is concerned.  You would think by now these people would realize they’ve become walking/talking stereotypes, but the stories of excessive coach, ref and kid abuse of the verbal and sometimes physical variety just keep popping up year after year.  Now it appears some jurisdictions have had enough and are seriously standing up and taking notice.

Hockey parents in Newfoundland and Labrador have just been told they need to take a course on respect on the heels of the same parental edict recently being issued in Edmonton.  The number of comments around each article is testament to how contentious an issue this is. There are plenty of people who resent having to be punished for the actions of a few others.

Do you think this will curb bad rink behaviour? I get it conceptually, but not sure if it will really deter the primary offenders who will likely continue to be the boorish asses (yup, I said it) they’ve always been at hockey or otherwise. I’ve seen the same parents at minor soccer and junior football games.  A more effective solution may be for Hockey Canada to sign on someone like PetSmart as a corporate sponsor get a bulk discount on muzzles.  Or maybe more zero tolerance based permanent suspensions are required. I suppose, if nothing else, the associations who have taken their preemptive actions are putting a bigger spotlight on what is obviously a festering issue among arena dwellers; whether the courses serve to fix the the problem or not.  Heightened awareness is generally never a bad thing.

Coincidentally, a friend just posted this great video giving a kid’s perspective on parents (not quite sure how I’d never seen it before.  Now you would think something like this would have a lasting effect, but the video was made just over four years ago, there’s been plenty more written on the topic as noted and not much has changed.

Seems a couple of the items from my recent post with tips for new hockey parents was even more timely than I thought.  Maybe if enough new parents are educated and reminded, yet again, that it’s just a game, it will start to sink in so the incidents we hear about each season are fewer and far between.

Chime in if you have any other ideas on how to cure Rink Rage.

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What, if anything, does NHL lockout mean for minor hockey?

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There’s still plenty of hockey to watch over the next six months, maybe just not of the NHL variety. Some people think this will be a boon to minor and junior hockey, but that wasn’t exactly what happened the last time around.  Minor hockey fans are primarily parents and junior hockey fans follow when their home team wins or if it’s the only game in town as it is in places like London, Ontario.

This is definitely not the end of the hockey world, but it also certainly can’t help the NHL.  Die-hard NHL hockey fans will just keep going to games (with sad Leafs fans being an obvious case in point as they follow a perennial loser). However, the lockout will not attract the casual (i.e. American) fans the NHL so dearly covets. Regardless, I have lots of hockey to enjoy as my soon-to-be overflowing calendar will attest to.

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What, if anything, does NHL lockout mean for minor hockey?

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What, if anything, does NHL lockout mean for minor hockey?

Mostly Back in the Stands

The Devil is back on the ice in earnest with a few practices and an exhibition game under her belt. The Boy is set to join her with Midget tryouts starting in a coupla days.  And for the most part I will be assuming my spot standing just inside or even with the the home team’s blue line as my superstitious nature dictates.  I am on the roster/staff of the Devil’s team, but primarily playing a backup role to one of the assistant coaches; a far cry from my head coaching duties last year.   And, as I figured I would, I did miss not being on the bench during yesterday’s season opener.  I missed the banter between the girls or the misplaced quips at the end of shifts. I also missed the opportunity to impart some small bit of hockey knowledge or motivation as situations required.  Not to say I am some master tactician or grand motivator.  As a coach, you (or at least I) derive some personal satisfaction from helping young, developing athletes.  Yes, I’m sure I get as much out of the on and off-ice interactions as they do.  As such, I’m sure I will enjoy the times I do get to  be on the bench this year that much more.

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Sharks prepare to take to the ice for Game 1 of the 2012-13 season.

But I am sure plenty of people will attest to the fact that I was doing my fair share of coaching from the stands. I’m sure some home and visiting parents’ eyeballs roll at my rink-bound exhortations, but I don’t really know any other way to experience the game.  I’m fairly certain my suggestions are positive.  I am pretty cognizant of not being “that hockey parent” who criticizes his or other kids; though I have been known to jokingly refer to either of my beloved progenies as “Dopey” or “Goofy” when opportunities present themselves in the form of turnovers or particularly bone-headed plays.  Yes, my kids (all kids) make the occasional bone-headed play and they generally know it.  The Boy and Devil would expect nothing less than a not-so-subtle jab from dear old Dad.

However, there were no such minor abuses uttered during yesterday’s 2-1 loss. The Devil and her new mates played a very respectable first game together, which hopefully bodes well for the season to come, though it’s far too early to be making any sorts of predictions. The next test will come on the weekend followed by a warm-up tournament in two week’s time, which should provide a good indication of what level they can be expected to compete at. Then it’s over to the Hockey Gods to determine their fateful path.

More on the Boy and his impending final minor hockey tryouts to come. And yes, I’ll be the one perched on the blue line for those as well, albeit keeping my exhortations and occasional chuckles to myself.

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